The end of a marriage is an incredibly difficult time. It is no surprise that many people report struggling with strong and even overwhelming emotions throughout the divorce process.
Common emotions during divorce
Anger and grief are among the most common emotions reported by those going through divorce. Indeed, the breakdown of a marriage can result in feelings of profound grief at the loss of the person who was supposed to be a life-long companion.
Fear is another common emotion. It may be fear about future financial stability, concerns about parenting or overall uncertainty associated with the divorce process.
A person may also experience guilt. Many report feeling like a failure because they could not make their marriage work. They may also feel responsible for the divorce or guilty about initiating the divorce.
Way to manage strong emotions
There is no easy answer to handling the big emotions associated with divorce.
While some emotions may lessen with time, many report that talking about their feelings with trusted friends or therapists is helpful. Others have turned to support groups to connect with others facing similar challenges.
Calming strategies like deep breathing, meditation and yoga can also be helpful, especially in managing anger.
It is also important to remind yourself that there is life after divorce. It may seem hopeless at times, but things almost always improve.
Not all emotions associated with divorce are negative.
Many going through divorce report feeling a sense of relief and optimism – relief at reducing or ending marital conflict and optimism about the newfound freedom to pursue opportunities that were unavailable during the marriage.
Whatever emotions a person may experience, it is important to speak with a knowledgeable attorney to guide you through the divorce process.