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Can divorce ever benefit children?

On Behalf of | Apr 4, 2024 | Divorce |

You would do anything for your children, even if that means sacrificing your own happiness to protect theirs. However, choosing to remain in a marriage plagued with constant conflict and negativity may do more harm than good. Although a united family is generally best for children, sometimes divorce is the healthier option for everyone involved.

Risks of “staying together for the kids”

Even without intending to, having constant arguments with your spouse may affect every part of your family life. While dealing with the stress of your marriage, it may become difficult to provide the support your children need, both emotional and physical.

For instance, you may be unable to comfort your children when you are in distress yourself. Parental tasks such as preparing nutritious meals or attending their afterschool activities may also become a challenge.

For your children, witnessing you have frequent and intense arguments with your spouse can be incredibly stressful. They may feel pressured to take sides or be exposed to adult problems they are not ready for. Moreover, they may mimic negative behaviors.

Studies suggest that children raised under such circumstances often face the following issues:

  • Developing a positive self-esteem
  • Forming and maintaining relationships
  • Trusting others
  • Building communication and problem-solving skills

As they grow up, these children may develop and suffer from mental health problems such as anxiety or depression. Hard as it may be to accept, sometimes ending a struggling marriage is what helps safeguard children from such difficulties.

Considering divorce for a positive change

Deciding to divorce demands careful thought. Despite your differences, your love for your children is something that you and your spouse still share.

If you can maintain a civil relationship and manage conflict, remaining together could work for you. However, that may mean sacrificing your peace of mind and well-being, impacting your ability to parent effectively.

A divorce could allow you both to focus all your energy on co-parenting rather than trying to resolve a broken relationship. Free from constant arguments and stress, you may better connect with and take care of your children. In Vermont, you and your spouse can develop a parenting plan that you both agree meets the needs of your family.

Divorce could also allow you to explore your individual goals and leave you more fulfilled. That happiness could extend into providing your children with more love and support.